The Pocket Watch

 

“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”

― Rose Kennedy

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An interesting reflection, Your house is threatened by fire. You have time to grab one thing. Let us assume that all people, pets, and stock certificates are safe! What do you save? Describe it to us. A physical description. Tell us its story. Where did it come from? What does it mean to you? How did your family come by it?

So many treasures, which one to choose?  I am torn between two items, both of which I associate with my father’s family.  Narrowing to one, I choose the pocket watch.  It came into my possession one winter afternoon, several years ago.  My father had come for a visit.  Just as he was about to leave, my father reached into his pocket and placed a pocket watch into my hand.  “Keep this,” he said. “I want you to have it.” I paid little attention to it.

The pocket watch lies in a blue dish, situated on top of the front hall table.  My grandmother, Alice’s table.  Odd, that the pocket watch ended up on this table, as I didn’t thoughtfully plan its placement for aesthetic reasons; I simply placed it there. The pocket watch lies close to the front door, as if not certain of where it belongs.  Will it stay?

I hold the pocket watch in my hands, examining it. The round, silver case is slightly tarnished.  It is classified as an open face pocket watch.  “DAX,” manufactured between 1927- 29, [2] also known as a dollar watch, made to be affordable and durable, designed for the working class man to toss into his pocket.  To be tossed away when it stopped keeping time; it was considered non repairable.  The silver case is rounded and flattened without sharp edges.  At the base of the clock face there is a sub second dial, located at six o’clock that denotes the seconds.  The words, WESTCLOX, DAX, SHOCK RESISTANT, are printed in upper case letters. The clock face is made of white paper with bold black numerals; the clock hands are black and have sharp pointed ends.  Researching this item, I discovered that the factory where these watches were produced indicated that, historically, women worked in watch factories, later painting the numerals and hands with a “glo” paint. They would lick the tips of their brushes to fashion a point resulting in radium poisoning. [3] This would be the beginning of worker’s rights and safety legislation for women employed in factories. The glass front has three faint scratch marks. The pendant clasp is located at twelve o’clock.  Attached to the clasp is a gold chain, with a fastener to slip through a buttonhole.  Someone has added this feature to the simple pocket watch.  To set the time, one must pull up on a small stem at the top of the clock, set the time, and back wind.

The watch has fallen silent.  Occasionally, when held it will tick.  I have discovered a way to get DAX to reluctantly and briefly keep time.  If I tip it gently, lift the tab, and slowly back wind, I can hear the sound.  The precise tick, tick, is comforting, soothing my heartbeat.  I will it to life as if that will bring those I love back to me.  I have so many unanswered questions to ask.  DAX teases me and resists, halted.  Time pauses. “Hold me,” it whispers.

A memory. I see my father.  It is the late 70’s.  The pocket watch’s golden chain is extending from the vest pocket of his stylish, three piece, pinstriped suit.  I recall how modish and debonair my father was.  Perhaps, the pocket watch was an item that held memories, possibly treasured, now handed into my care.

For many years, I have attempted to ignore the pocket watch, passing it by as I made countless trips past the front hall table.  Many times I have considered removing it from the blue dish on the table.  Time has passed, days to weeks, weeks to months, and months have become years.  The pocket watch remained silent.  Occasionally, I would stop and pick it up to study the locket attached to the chain.  In that moment, time would briefly stop as I let my memories surface. There are two pictures inside, one of a pretty, fine featured woman, bobbed hair, head tilted down, eyes cast to the side.  She is shyly smiling at a man.  The pose is familiar, my grandmother, Alice. The man standing beside her is my grandfather, Tom.  He is handsome, the most beautiful eyes.  Wearing a simple white shirt with suspenders, he is smiling, a sideways grin, proudly facing the camera.  They look happy. The second photograph is of my father, their son.  He has a clipped beard; it is beginning to grey. Facing the camera, his eyes are twinkling and focused.  My father always smiled with his eyes, and if you looked long enough, they would reveal a vulnerable, gentle heart.  The golden chain is puzzling, an attachment.  Where did the chain come from?  It is far too elegant for the simple DAX.  Who owned it?  The initials on the locket front are inscribed, TS, my paternal grandfather.  I assume that grandfather owned the chain and that someone had carefully placed the photograph of his wife inside for safekeeping.  Who placed the photo of my father into the second compartment?  Precious.  You are worthy; I will protect and keep you close to my heart.  This explanation would suit what I recall of my grandfather.  Once a week, on a Tuesday, just before noon, we would meet at his sister, Isabella’s home.  Bella would prepare a hot lunch.  My grandfather would take us for a drive to a nearby provincial park.  It was such a simple event, driving the tree lined gravel roads in a car, we let time slow down.  Isabella had a brief reprieve from her daily reality, protectively caring for and managing her adult son.  Afterward, my grandfather would drive Bella to the local shops to do her banking and shopping for the week.  Always, my grandfather would stop and buy us ice cream.  That was our routine; we followed it without failure.  My grandfather was protective, and demonstrated care through simple gestures.  Driving home I would see grandfather’s red Valiant station wagon pulled to the side of the highway where he would be standing, hat in hand, waiting for me to drive past.  As I drove by, toward the turn off for home, grandfather would nod.  We would wave, our signal for “all is well, see you soon.” It was a simple, yet profound gesture, I have never forgotten.

What was my father trying to tell me through the gift of the pocket watch? That time passes; that we were running out of time, or that family time is precious? Birthdays and Christmases would come and go without a card, gift, sometimes not even a phone call.  I would always wait for his call.  I would make him wait for mine.  We began to keep a glass wall between us, our conversations becoming cautious, polite, yet, our goodbye hugs told the truth.  My father never apologized, “I’m sorry if my actions hurt you.”  I never asked him, “Why?” It seemed so unlike him to stop being responsible and present in our lives. Wasted moments.  We thought that we had forever to make amends.  Our love was true.

Now I am the keeper of my father’s pocket watch.  It doesn’t faithfully keep time, it’s flawed, mismatched, and it’s worthless.  I never speak these words, however, I would be lying if I wrote that I did not think them.  I simply smile, hold it tightly pressed to my palm and thank him.

I am ashamed to write these words for when I look back upon this action, I can see that my father was demonstrating a simple act of kindness, a reaching out of sorts through this simple gesture, bestowing a watch.  Perhaps even trying to tell me that he was sorry for all of the misunderstandings, sadness.  Although, worthless to some, the pocket watch evoked memories that he wanted me to treasure. The circle shape, a symbol of eternity is fitting for the pocket watch.  It would link me to family, grandparents and back to my father.  It belonged with me, an unbroken circle.  Perhaps, as simple as my grandfather’s endearing wave, the modest pocket watch was a symbol for eternal love and the chain, a symbol of joining together, of holding on to another.

I am getting older and I know this; “time waits for no one”[4] and we run out of opportunities to demonstrate care for one another, to get a second chance, to share one more minute.  Eventually the clock stops ticking and it becomes too late.  Now, I am the timekeeper, life is fleeting. Gently holding the pocket watch, I remember the good times, the sad, the importance of forgiveness, to seize opportunities, to live in the moment, and to love.  I am careful to honor and respect time.  I choose family, always.  I hold my grandchild a bit more tightly each time we say, “So long.” It is important to me that the child knows love, in a world that often forgets.  One day, the pocket watch will be passed to another member of the family along with this story.  I shall choose wisely whom to bestow it upon.

Saturday, Breakfast and Dad

English: Kippers for Breakfast at Burton Bradstock

English: Kippers for Breakfast at Burton Bradstock (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Moments We Treasured  

     Weekends were eagerly anticipated! Dad would be free of work responsibilities and home for the weekend.  We would celebrate Saturdays at home with dad!  At 8 o’clock, every Saturday morning, the smell from the kitchen would waft through the hallway, greeting my sister and me, as we slowly woke up.  In the kitchen, the frying pan would be quietly spitting and sizzling on the stove top. My sister and I would be lured from our beds.  Tousled hair and housecoats fastened, we would scoot down the hall to the kitchen. It was Saturday and we were about to be treated like royalty.  Breakfast was British style, fried kippers, bacon strips, and eggs. Toast would be popping up from the toaster.  Inspecting the toast we would turn up our noses, declining the pieces that were ever so slightly burnt around the edges. “Puts hair on your chest,” Dad would tease.  We would roll our eyes and giggle.  We didn’t want that to happen to us!   Accepting a few rashers of bacon, refusing the kippers, my sister and I would feast. HP Sauce, fit for HRH graced the table and we would squirt it all over the eggs and bacon.  The table would be neatly set.  My father had a discerning eye for detail and presentation; he would place all the necessary utensils and accompaniments at the ready, waiting for our small hands. Syrup would be decanted into a small pitcher.  Freshly squeezed orange juice would be poured into two small glasses, waiting for us to sip the sweetness.  In a separate frying pan dad would be warming pancakes.  On Saturday mornings dad would indulge his girls. “What shall I make today?” he would ask. We would beg for animal pancakes and giggle with delight as dad created cat and dog style shapes to please us.  There was never an animal or word that dad couldn’t create out of batter in a frying pan.  We delighted in our father’s attention and loving actions.  Expected to sit quietly at the table, place a napkin on our lap, and use our best manners throughout breakfast, was the first rule of the morning.  We would never dare to break it, not out of fear of punishment, out of respect and love for our dad.  It would never have occurred to us to defy or disappoint him.  We wanted to live up to his expectations for us. I craved this time with Dad, feeling safe and loved.  Our two Siamese cats, stealthy Kemo and the over-weight Sheba, would slip in and out from under the table, hoping for a scrap or two, madly mewing, intoxicated by the scent of kippers.  After finishing our meal, my father would have us clear the table, scrape the dishes clean, and ready them for the sink.  Dad was obsessive about cleanliness and he would scour the kitchen.  On Saturday mornings, the windows would be open, year round, as dad cleaned and shined the counters, glass panes, and oven. We were each given jobs to do. Dad expected that we would act responsibly and complete our chores.  Once completed, we would plan the day’s outing.  Even as we aged, my father continued to make his special Saturday morning breakfast.  I knew that dad had left for good, when these special moments ended. I would fill my weekends with other plans, however, on the occasion that I sat alone in the kitchen on Saturday mornings, I would imagine him there.  Many years later, my sister would comment that this was one of the saddest times for her as well.  Dad just stopped coming home, not all at once, bit by bit, he left.  Sometimes, my sister and I would smell breakfast cooking and know that dad had returned, most times, the kitchen remained silent and still, awaiting his presence.

A “Wonderful World”

I see so much beauty around me! Sunshine, the silence of snowflakes, heartfelt hugs, smiles, doors held to let a stranger pass through.  Babies, a whole world of endless possibilities ahead of them, courage when it counts, the wisdom of elders, simple, random acts of kindness.  I remind myself that it’s a “wonderful world.” Join in.

Today I Remember

my Dad.  It has been just over one year since his passing.  I pray that you are at peace.  With Winter comes snow and when the flakes start to fall, I stop, pause, and think of you.  I try to smile.  I try to understand.  I buy a bouquet of white Chrysanthemums to honor you.  To this day I have unanswered questions and a broken heart.  You know I tried and that I loved you.  I know that you loved me. That should be enough.  Did you leave us the biggest gifts?  The gifts of compassion, forgiveness, a capacity toward kindness.  Today I remember you, Dad and I thank you for gifting me the most important qualities to possess in life.

Words to Live By…

Alice

Alice was my grandmother.  I would like to tell you that our story began at the time of my birth.  Well, perhaps, it did.  I was told that Alice came to the hospital to see her new granddaughter.  Many years would go by until we met again.  Why, you might ask?  I do not know why.  Imagine finding your grandmother in a mall.  That’s how I found, Alice.  Before I tell you about this chance encounter let me share this with you.  I recall a time, long ago.  A relative felt that it was high time that Alice met her growing granddaughter and drove me to Alice’s house.  Knocking on the door proved futile.  Alice was not coming out to greet us.  This is what I saw from the vantage point of the car window; a curtain in the attic  pulled slightly aside.  Alice.  I could not comprehend why a grandmother would not want to know her granddaughter.  I wanted her.  The mall?  Years later, walking through the mall I saw her with my grandfather.  I went to her and introduced myself.  Alice was noticeably flustered, yet kind.  I told her that I was driving now and would come to her.  That was how I came to know Alice, my grandmother.  I am now a grandmother and I find it incomprehensible that Alice let the years slip away.  There is nothing that could keep me from time spent with my granddaughter.  Why did Alice act this way, you ask?  I have no clue.  I do know that Alice loved me.  I write this to enlighten others.  If you are an Alice, pick up the phone, write a letter, find your grandchild.  If you are the grandchild, go and find your Alice.  Tell her that you love her.  Make up for lost time.

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